FAQ’s


FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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TANTRA

What is tantra?
What is the difference between Tantra & Ordinary sex?

EJACULATION MASTERY/PREMATURE EJACULATION

I have no problem with achieving an erection and maintaining it .  What I have difficulty with is ejaculation.  This is very frustrating as you can imagine. Can you help me?
How could I learn Ejaculation Mastery in such a short period of time?

MULTIPLE ORGASM

Is it possible to achieve Multiple Orgasm without Ejaculation in the first meeting?
I know my body pretty well and I cannot imagine having multiple orgasms.  How can I have multiple orgasms?

WOMAN’S ORGASM

My wife seldom has an orgasm. She has never been very orgasmic but now she is less so than ever. Do you have any guidance for me?
Can you teach me how to make a woman orgasm?

RELATIONSHIP/INTIMACY

Can you help me improve my intimacy with my wife/girlfriend?
Will my wife benefit from me learning the Sacred Heart Space, Ejaculation Mastery, & Full Body Orgasm?
Will Tantra benefit a sexual union with a skeptical partner?

SEXUAL & HEALTH CHALLENGES
Relating to Erectile Dysfunction (ED), Cock size, Performance Anxiety, Low Libido, Premature Ejaculation, Delayed Ejaculation, Impotence

Can you help me with my erection difficulties?
My cock is very small.  How can I compete with a big cock?  Will what you teach me help me bring the one I’m with to an orgasm?
I lack sexual confidence, suffer from performance anxiety and sometimes become impotent?  Can you help me?
I am an older man. My sexual appetite and performance is not what it used to be.  Can you help me?  Is it possible to convert the physical changes that arise in men like me (over 55) into special opportunities for erotic giving?
I was wondering how you deal with men who suffer from ED?  I am 66 years old and suffer from ED.  I have tried the pills and they really don’t do that much for me.
My wife isn’t interested in sex any more because of her hormonal problems.  Can you help?
If  I hold back and don’t come, I can’t come. Will your Ejaculation Mastery training be helpful to me?
I have diabetes and low libido.  Will your teaching help me?
I am taking high blood pressure medication that is affecting my desire.  Can you help me?
I am on anti-depression medication which is affecting my desire level.  Will  your approach help me?
I am impotent due to heart surgery. Can you help me?
I cannot climax when having sex. I get even short erections.  The women leave me because I do not know how to relax during sex. Can you help me?

SERVICES

Do you do Full Service?
I can’t imagine “pleasing the goddess” without physical contact such as oral sex / intercourse.  How do you teach me to do this?Do you guarantee the results?
Can we meet before the session, so that I can know if I want to do a session with you?
Can we meet for massage before meeting for Tantra as a way of getting to know you?
I am interested in Prostate Massage.  Can you tell me about it?
Could you please be a bit more specific? So besides a lesson, will the client get a hand job, a blowjob or actual sex?
Do you take on students to teach the art?
Are you a scam?
What is the difference between a “Tantra Experience & Massage Combo” session and a Tantra session?

FETISHES

Can I be your slave?
I have a foot fetish.  Can I see you?

Gifting

It is too expensive to do all those sessions to learn Tantra.  Couldn’t I learn more for far less by reading a book?
I really want to do a session but I can’t afford it.  Can you help me?

Miscellaneous

I’m looking for someone who isn’t just b.s. but really believes and lives her life accordingly.  Someone REAL.  Is that you?
Is my goal realistic? Are my motives pure? Is this the right thing to do? How might I be affected?
I don’t have a partner to do the session with or to practice with.  Do I need one?
What is the recommended interval between sessions?

QUESTIONS WITH ANSWERS
Ejaculation Mastery/Premature Ejaculation/Delayed Ejaculation

I have no problem with achieving an erection and maintaining it .  What I have difficulty with is ejaculation.  This is very frustrating as you can imagine. Can you help me?
I have often found that  men who can’t ejaculate are too much in their head during intercourse.  They are anxious about the problem and concerned about pleasing their partner.  They try too hard to ejaculate.  It is a form of performance anxiety.  This may be the case with you.  If so, my method of teaching Ejaculation Mastery/Full Body Orgasm can help you because my techniques prevent you from being in your head and teach you to flood your body, with your sexual energy, over and over again, at higher and higher levels of arousal.  My method also helps because you learn how to have orgasm without ejaculating and to understand, and communicate to your partner, the unimportance of ejaculation compared to orgasm – especially full body orgasm.  Thus, the pressure to ejaculate is lifted, making it both less valued and more possible.  When I have to deal with performance anxiety, I need an additional 30 minutes, so this session will be 4 hours long.

How could I learn Ejaculation Mastery in such a short period of time?
I can teach you Tantra in 3.5 hour (4 hours if you also have performance anxiety) because I am reprogramming your conscious mind with a new mind-body reflex that is counter to the one you are on automatic for now.  I explain to you how and why everything that I teach you works so that it makes absolute sense to your logical mind to follow through on my suggestions which have good reason to work.  I then give you the home-play, which is a form of self-pleasuring based on what you have learned.  If you do what I tell you to do for approximately 21 days you should have a new mind-body reflex for the rest of your life.  I say 21 days because research shows that it takes 21 days on the average to get a new mind-body reflex of any kind   That  21days is the average and not necessarily what most people have.  You may be more or less than the average in this area of your life.  Thus you may take longer or shorter.  You may not do it every day and every day you don’t do it you give your mind time to forget and have to do some catch-up.  You may not do the home-play at all, which will mean that you will improve because of what you know but your improvement will not be anywhere in the ball park of what it could be.  Thus, ultimately, it is up to you how well you get it and in hour long.   I do recommend that men commit to another session about a month later of about an hour and a half – because most people need an exterior motivation not to be run by their over-packed schedule and their fear of what will happen if they don’t catch up on all they haven’t done soon.  Thus, I provide every support.  I know the dangers people face in not getting it because they are run by their lives instead of running their own lives – myself included.  However, outside of that, if you can run your own life, everything you need to do so I will provide you with.

Multiple Orgasm

8. Is it possible to achieve Multiple Orgasms without Ejaculation in the first meeting? 
I do not believe that it is possible to achieve multiple orgasms without ejaculation in the first meeting.  This has never happened with any of my clients.  I have had clients that achieved full body orgasm without ejaculation but only once and at the end of the session.  It is also not commonplace.  What is frequent, and I would say that the majority of my clients have an experience of it to some degree, is the experience of full body orgasm with ejaculation.  The reason for this, as far as I understand it, is that in order to achieve Ejaculation Mastery you have to first know what to do, how to do it and when to do it, and be able to do all of this at the level of the conscious mind.  I teach all of this in the session.  However, there are two other steps.

The first step is the one you suggested.  You need to develop a strong pc muscle to help hold back the Ejaculation and to help create the kind of intensity that leads to an intense, implosive, full body orgasm.  I give you pc muscle exercises to do at the end of the session which will start to have noticeable results by about two weeks into the practice of them.   

The second step is to turn the Ejaculation Mastery process you have learned into a new mind-body reflex which is controlled by the unconscious mind so that you never have to think about it.  Examples of mind-body reflexes are driving a car, typing, dancing when you are a good dancer and know the steps, playing a musical instrument, etc.  Research shows that it takes, on the average, 21 days to achieve a new mind-body reflex.  I end my sessions by giving, what I call, home-play, which is a form of self-pleasuring, based on what you have learned.  I ask you to do it every day for approximately 21 days until that mind-body reflex is established.  If you can’t do it every day it will take longer than if you did to get the results.  As some people will take less time and some people more time than the 21 days you could still do it less time if you were a quick learn.  The reason why so many people have an experience of the full body orgasm is that I teach them to run their sexual energy throughout their body (both men and women have to learn to do this in order to be Tantric) and they do it over and over again during the process of learning the Ejaculation Mastery.  At the end I show them a little trick that increases significantly the chances of experiencing full body orgasm (when these other conditions have been meet) when they actually have an orgasm – whether it is with ejaculation or not.  As I want them to know the experience of full body orgasm, I let them take this opportunity.

I know my body pretty well and I cannot imagine having multiple orgasms.  How can I have multiple orgasms? 
You will not have multiple orgasms in the session.  In order to have multiple orgasms you have to have the whole process down as a new-mind body reflex (which can only result by doing things over and over again until you can do them without thinking.)  How you have multiple orgasms is that when you have developed the capacity not to ejaculate and you peak your sexual energy over and over again you become orgasmic without ejaculating.  Since you haven’t ejaculated, you can orgasm over and over again until you do ejaculate – which, when you have mastered the skill to a high degree, will only be when you choose to ejaculate, and you may not choose to do so. 

Woman’s Orgasm

My wife seldom has an orgasm. She has never been very orgasmic but now she is less so than ever. Do you have any guidance for me?
There are lots of things I can share with you. In fact, I am writing a book on that subject. Please read my article “Women and Orgasm: What a Man Needs to Know”. I will be happy to share more with you in a private Tantra session and, later on, in my book by the same name.

Can you teach me how to make a woman orgasm?

I can teach you how to make a woman orgasm.  That does not mean that you can make any woman orgasm.  Some women have deep psychological wounds that make them a real challenge.  However, you will learn how to arouse a woman and make her long for more, how to bring her whole body alive with sexual energy, how to touch her in a way that is most likely to get results, and how to elicit feedback from her so that you know what you are doing.  There are two different kinds of orgasm that a woman can have – clitoral orgasm and g-spot orgasm. I can teach you  how to elicit both. With g-spot orgasm, it is easier for a woman to be multi-orgasmic and thus you will be also learning what to do to bring a woman to multiple orgasms.   I will even teach you how to guide a woman into ejaculating  .  Women, as well as men, can ejaculate.  Every woman is different in her arousal pattern and sensitivity and so I will teach you how to be an explorer and to sexually map a woman so that you know where her most erotic sensitivities are.

Relationship/Intimacy

Can you help me improve my intimacy with my wife/girlfriend? 
I can help you improve your intimacy with your wife.  In fact, I do it for all clients who have a primary committed relationship.  I do it in a number of ways. 
 
First, I briefly explain to you one of the important factors in dulling the excitement and intimacy in long term relationships and make suggestions as to how you can overcome it.  I draw your attention to resources which, if you purchase them (which you can do from bookstores or the Internet), will help you immensely in this goal and I show you how to use these resources. 
 
Secondly, I share with you an experience of coming into the sacred heart space and making a soul communion and how to hold that space intact as you move into the sensual/sexual arena – which you can recreate with your wife.   
 
Thirdly, in the process of teaching you whatever I teach you, I do it in an intimacy creating way, and draw your attention to what I am doing, encouraging you to join me in it, thereby showing you a way of achieving this intimacy.   
 
Tantra is excellent for long term relationships.  It teaches you to be totally present in all of your senses and out of your mind and into your heart, and by this means to bring the focused alertness of a new relationship to the older relationship, thereby dealing with the problem of familiarity.  It teaches you to be in the sacred heart space with your partner and to come from a place of honoring, cherishing and reverence.  It teaches you to use ritual to create sacredness and to allow the wildness in you out.  It teaches you to be authentic and real and to let go of dysfunctional conditioning and cultural taboos.  It teaches you to celebrate life, to flow with existence and to surrender.   
 
I bring to the session a long experience of Tantra as a way of life and know well its working in long term relationships.  I am in one.  I also have a background as a counselor, specializing in, among other things, relationship counseling.

Will my wife benefit from me learning the Sacred Heart Space, Ejaculation Mastery, & Full Body Orgasm?
She will benefit big time.  As a result of this session and your home practice, these are the improvements that will take place that will serve her:

You will be better able to put loving focused attention on her and to express your loving, turned on feelings through your eyes and your face (which most women love).
You will also learn how to express your arousal in sound so that she will hear the impact she has on you which will be exciting and gratifying to her.
You will know more about creating specialness and sacredness in your relationship with her.
You will be more highly aroused in your body and therefore more sexual and sexually arousing.
You will be able to experience full body orgasm without coming and your energy will stimulate hers.
You will be able to make love to her through intercourse for a long, long time, thereby enabling her to have her orgasm during intercourse instead of from oral or digital sex.
You will be able to orgasm or ejaculate when she has her orgasm and thus she can have simultaneous orgasm during intercourse with you.

All of this assumes that you do the home-play that I give you from approximately three weeks after we do the session.  I will recommend an e-book on Ejaculation Mastery that you can download off the computer and she will never have to know where you learned what you learned.

There is a segment that I teach called “Romancing Your Relationship: How to create the kind of emotional intimacy that leads to sexual intimacy and passion.”  It teaches you how to get your wife to collaborate with you in up-leveling your emotional and sexual passion, what to do to bring that about, and how to do an incredible date night that goes from relaxation through to emotional intimacy, to the sacred heart space, to sensuality and sexual experimentation/practice, and finally to passionate sexual lovemaking.  The short form of this session takes an hour and I think you and your wife would greatly benefit from it.  I could give you this information as part of your first session.  It would be an additional hour. Alternatively you can do it separately as part of a longer session, where I do some of the date night experiences together.  It is also helpful if you learn about pleasuring the woman through touch – another session in itself.  Let me know if you are interested.

Will Tantra benefit a sexual union with a skeptical partner?
Yes, it will.  If you practice the EM and get it down on automatic, she can’t help but notice that you can last indefinitely, have extra-ordinary orgasms, are more sexual and orgasmic energetically, are more heart-centered and honoring in your connection with her (I teach you that too), are multi-orgasmic, and can time your ejaculation when she has her orgasm.

Sexual & Health Challenges

Can you help me with my erection difficulties?  
In sharing with you the art of Tantra, I can teach you many things, and the focus of my session with you will be related to taking you beyond your concerns with your erection difficulties to a greater delight in all that this currently available to you to enjoy and to teach you how to run your sexual energy and spread it throughout your body.   You may find that your erection difficulties evaporate during the session and that you understand the process through which that happened.  If they do not, we will proceed through a hypnotherapy session on a subsequent occasion to explore both source of the problem and hopefully resolve it.

My cock is very small.  How can I compete with a big cock?  Will what you teach me help me bring the one I’m with to an orgasm?
Your suffering is in vain.  While a very long cock can be extremely attractive to look at, it would impale most women.  If the man puts it in all the way, for the vast majority of women, he would bang into the woman’s bladder causing pain and bladder problems.  If he doesn’t put it in all the way he will not experience the pleasure of being encased in the woman’s erotic yoni (a Tantric term for the female genitals).  Most of the small to medium sized women I know would look at a very large cock and say “never in me”.  The combination of small and medium sized women are by far the majority of women.  Large women are mainly very big women and women who have had lots of children.  When a man has a very thick cock, and not just a long one, he will fit into very few women and  therefore not get the opportunity to make love to many women at all.  What men don’t understand is that it is the big guys that have a real problem – most women are not big and don’t enjoy being stretched and split apart at the seams.
 
A small cock may not be so stunning to look at but it fits perfectly for most women.  Nothing bigger is needed to give a woman infinite pleasure.  It can easily reach the female g-spot and beyond that nothing is needed.  If the woman is a little too large for that to happen then you just need to learn some Kama Sutra positions that maximize the depth to which you reach.  I can teach you these.  What really counts is the sensitivity with which you make love to a woman – following her energy, running sexual energy with her, tantalizing her with your touch, peaking her energy over and over again, and bringing in variety in the many ways I can teach you. Also the degree to which you can be in a place of powerful heart-connected presence with her and move from there in the sensual realm.  Finally, your self-confidence is an important factor.  If you think your cock is too small and feel inadequate because of it, she will share your opinion as you will project your low self worth into her consciousness.   If you love your cock and are contented with its size and your attention is focused on the pleasure you and your lover can have with each other, then your lover will most probably come from the same place as you.    What women want is an excellent lover who cherishes and honors them and size is secondary – except when the man is too big.

I lack sexual confidence, suffer from performance anxiety and sometimes become impotent?  Can you help me? 
I can see that you need my first two sessions.  In the first I teach you Ejaculation Mastery so that you will have the ability to last as long as you wish without ejaculating.   You will, as part of this, learn to take your life force energy, which is also your sexual energy, and send it up your spine and connect it with your spiritual energy and to experience the union of your sexual and spiritual energies.  You will learn to spread your energy across your body so that you experience the aliveness throughout your body and not just focused in your genitals.   In doing so, you will be building a huge reservoir of sexual energy in your body.  At the same time what you will be learning is how to hold large amounts of incredible turn on energy in your body without ejaculating so that you have the capacity to make love to your partner for as long as you want without ejaculating, whether it be an hour, many hours or indefinitely.   You will also be learning how to have full body orgasm without ejaculation.  In the process of learning all of this, you will learn to dissipate your performance anxiety which is the source of your impotence problems when you have them.  You will learn this by two avenues.  Firstly, the confidence you will gain from having these skills will diffuse that anxiety.  You will know that you can please the woman you are with in a way that most men cannot because of your ability to build sexual energy and to last with them until they have their orgasm or many orgasms.  The process of learning the Ejaculation Mastery deals with the very psycho-spiritual issues that cause the problem – being in your head, having goals you are afraid you can’t reach, wanting to please, comparing, judging, and evaluating.  The process I teach you simply side-steps these behaviors.  In addition, in the beginning of the session we talk and I will address your issues there and we will establish a very authentic and warm connection, then you will have an experience with me in which we will experience a soul communion with me.  From doing this with me you will know better how to do this with others and this also will increase your confidence with others and your pleasure in their company – as well as their pleasure in yours. 

In our second session, I will be teaching you how to become an excellent giver.  You will learn how to touch and tantalize a woman and how to do so in a way that the focus of your attention is as much on your own pleasure as hers, if not more.  You will learn to touch by following the pleasure in your hands.  You will learn to touch her body in a way that brings her whole body alive sexually and so that she longs for you touch on her genitals.  You will learn to touch her so that she will be come orgasmic from your touch and even to learn how to do goddess spot massage which can bring a woman to ejaculation.  With that level of skill, you should be well on your way to a rewarding sexually and emotionally intimate relationship life with your lovers – and it will be my pleasure to by your guide in taking you there.

I am an older man. My sexual appetite and performance is not what it used to be.  Can you help me?  Is it possible to convert the physical changes that arise in men like me (over 55) into special opportunities for erotic giving?
Men over 55 are slower to come and that in itself puts them at great advantage with regard to women.  However, most men over 55 are still not slow enough for most women and I can help you to slow down further, while you amp up your sexual energy, through the Ejaculation Mastery and Full Body Orgasm training that I give in my first session.  Men over 55 who sometimes find that the erection that had hoped for is not forthcoming or is not as hard as it once was usually finds that through the Tantric consciousness techniques he develops a greater sensitivity to his experience and to his partner and that this more than compensates, allowing for a powerful erection once again.  There are also some natural products that can help here that I can share with you.  Older men who may not have the same strength and energy, or as hard an erection as they once did, are also more open to exploring full body sensuality with their partner.  In Tantra we believe that every cell in the body is a sex cell, in that two different types of sex cells (the egg and the sperm) gave birth to the whole body, and that this explains why the whole body can be brought to a place of high sexual arousal.  Thus, we waste a great deal of our sexual potential when we focus only on the primary sexual organs.  The older man is more willing to explore the full sexual panorama of the body.  This can become an exquisite and erotic art form and this is what I cover in the second session on Pleasuring the Goddess.   The greater maturity and confidence of the older man also enables him to be more open and contactful with his partner (the results of which cannot be appreciated until experienced) – and he is more open to guidance in this dimension.

My wife isn’t interested in sex any more because of her hormonal problems.  Can you help? 
Yes.  I can guide you as to the information that is out there with regard to hormonal problems and where to find that information for yourself.  I can also help you understand the other factors that may be influencing your wife’s interest in sex and give you guidance as to what you can do about it.   Other factors may include:  her beliefs and attitudes with regard to sex, issues relating to familiarity in a long term relationship, resentments that block both heart and sex energies, sexual wounds, and a lack of sexual skills on your part, including ejaculating too quickly or an inability to follow her energy or touch her in a way that arouses her. I can help you with all of these. 

If I hold back and don’t come, I can’t come. Will your Ejaculation Mastery training be helpful to me?
I have found that it is helpful with your situation.  I think this is because when you hold back you are using your mind to control your body and that turns your arousal level off, which is disappointing and frustrating, and ultimately turns you off altogether.  With the Ejaculation Mastery / Full Body Orgasm process, you are learning to get out of your head and develop a new mind-body reflex that will be on automatic pilot.  You are also learning to flood your body with sexual energy which increases the amount of sexual energy in your body.  This disbursement of high sexual energy throughout your body not only enables you to come but to do so far more intensely, pervasively and longer than you would normally experience at the best of times – except for the fact that this will become your new norm. 

I have diabetes and low libido.  Will your teaching help me? 
Tantra will not solve the physical aspects of your problem.  To do this you will need to go on a natural health regime, under the guidance of a naturopathic doctor, nutritionally oriented chiropractor, or alternative health care or longevity oriented M.D.  You can also educate yourself and change your health status, working with an MD to check the changes in your health so that you medication can be lowered and you can gradually free yourself from the effects on your libido of both the health problem and the medication to resolve it. 

What Tantra can do is to teach you the consciousness and techniques that will enable you to intensify and expand whatever sexual feelings you do have and to spread these sexual energies throughout your body.  It will teach you to be more sensual and heart centered and thus to feel more.  It will help you to appreciate the richness of what ever it is that you experience and thus to enjoy your experiences more.  In my opinion, Tantra will be a blessing for you. 

By the way, there are supplements for sexual health and aphrodisiacs that can increase your desire level in the right dose.  I can direct you to these but you will need to check them out with your medical doctor to make sure that they are not contra-indicated for your condition.

19. I am taking high blood pressure medication that is affecting my desire.  Can you help me? 
Please refer to the answer given above for Diabetes.

20. I am on anti-depression medication which is affecting my desire level.  Will your approach help me? 
Please refer to the answer given above for Diabetes.

I am impotent due to heart surgery. Can you help me?
Are you impotent due to the surgery itself or due to the medications you get from your doctor for yourself?  In many cases, pharmaceuticals create sexual dysfunction, particularly those involved in the cardiovascular system, depression and diabetes.  You might want to ask your medical doctor and ask if there is another pharmaceutical you can try that may not have this effect.  You can also do a Internet search for the side effects of the drug on www.webmd.com, www.pdr.net, www.drugs.com, and www.mercola.com . There is a natural medical doctor, Dr. Jonathan Wright, who may be able to guide you in a solution to your problem that will enable you to strengthen and heal your heart without the effects of impotence, assuming they are physiologically caused. His web-site address is www.tahoma-clinic.com .  He is truly exceptional and can be trusted. 

In order to help you myself I would need to know if you feel arousal.  If you feel arousal but don’t get an erection, I can teach you to take that arousal feeling and redirect it from your genitals into your body and to keep flooding your body with energy, so that ultimately you become capable of having a full body orgasm – without an erection.   I can also teach you how to pleasure the woman so that you bring her whole body alive and how to take her to states of exquisite orgasmic energy – and how to romance your relationships.  All this, in addition to greatly increasing your relationship and sexual intimacy and pleasure, will increase your self-confidence.  I am assuming that this may have diminished and that this would cause performance anxiety, which in itself can be a cause of impotence, regardless of anything else.

I cannot climax when having sex. I get even short erections.  The women leave me because I do not know how to relax during sex. Can you help me?
You yourself give a diagnosis which is that you cannot relax during sex.  If you cannot relax, you probably have performance anxiety and are in your head more than you are in your senses and your body.  When you are anxious your body releases bio-chemicals that are inconsistent with sexual pleasure and orgasm. This would explain both your difficulty with climaxing and your short erections.  The Tantric processes that I will teach you will enable you to get out of your head and into your body.  You will learn to let go of goals, the past and the future, and to focus on pleasure and this moment now.  You will learn to give up your concern with having an ejaculation at all – as I will be teaching you how to orgasm without ejaculating which is a very high level of Tantric sexual development and you can explain this to your partner’s.  This will get you off the hook for ejaculating both with them and yourself – and the resultant relaxation will probably enable you to ejaculate.  In fact, in the process I teach you can either ejaculate or not ejaculate as and when you choose.

With regard to your short erections, the reduction of anxiety combined with the flooding of your body with sexual energy over and over again, which is what I will teach you to do, will most probably overcome this.  However, there could be a physical factor involved there too as men in middle age suffer from an ever increasing amount of nitric oxide in their bodies.  Nitric oxide is responsible for erection.  I will give you a list of natural, healthy supplements  that you can take, which can be purchased at the health food store and over the internet, that will increase the nitric oxide in your body, enabling you to have longer erections.

Services

Do you do Full Service? 
While I teach you Tantra, I do not have intercourse with you.  However, there is much to learn before you would want or need to practice Tantra through intercourse.  I can teach you Tantra without having intercourse.  Tantra is very much about running energy – running your life force energy which is also your sexual energy and connecting it to your spiritual energy so that you experience the union of the sexual and the spiritual.  Once you know how to run energy it is possible to experience extraordinary sexual experiences without intercourse.   It is possible to become fully orgasmic, and to experience full body orgasm without ejaculation without intercourse. I can teach you to take yourself and your partner to the stars.

I can’t imagine “pleasing the goddess” without physical contact such as oral sex / intercourse.  How do you teach me to do this? 
 When it comes to Pleasuring the Goddess, there is physical contact.  You are learning how to touch in ways that are truly exquisite to both yourself and the female body.  You are learning to bring the female body alive with your touch.   You are learning how to make the female body long for more intimate touch so that it reaches out for more, rather than pulling back from too intense, or insensitive, touch, and how to provide that more intimate touch and female g-spot orgasm.  Oral sex is easy for men.  Manual touch is far more difficult.  When you have learned to achieve the effect through touch, everything you learn can be generalized both to oral sex (where there is less need) and to intercourse.  However, if what you are looking for is the experience of oral sex or intercourse rather than learning to be a better lover then you can find what you want with an escort (I assume).    

The emphasis will be on leaning to create and experience, in an emotionally and physically intimate context, trust and surrender.  You will learn to let go of your mind and come into your senses.  You will learn to relinquish the past and the future and become profoundly focused in present time.  You will learn to come out of your head and into your heart.  This will be my intention and endeavor and if you are willing to make it yours, we have begun before we even meet.

Can we meet before the session, so that I can know if I want to do a session with you? 
I do not meet with people before the session.  The information that you need in order to know whether you can do a session with me is provided on this web-site in both the words I have written here, my web-videos that you give you a feel for my presence, my photos, and my testimonials.  I am also available to speak to you on the phone once you have checked out this web-site and filled in my “About You Questionnaire.”

Can we meet for massage before meeting for Tantra as a way of getting to know you? 
I do not provide massage as a way of introduction to clients who wish to learn Tantra.  It is a very poor introduction.  I provide massage for clients who cannot afford Tantra or who do not wish to learn Tantra and are only interested in having a massage.  To do so would be antithetical to the Tantric experience.  The massage is a relatively impersonal experience.  You do not meet me.  I am silent throughout the session.  My goal is to take you into the experience of your body and your senses, not to know you or meet you in the spiritual domain – although that may happen.   
 
In Tantra, the design of the session is more complex, profound and sacred.  First we meet and talk, and the talk is significant and connects us as two beings.  It may be transformative in itself.  Then we connect on the level of the sacred and make a soul connection.  Only after we have met on the level of the “high being,” do I teach you the Ejaculation Mastery and full body orgasm process, first explaining it to you and then giving you a beautiful Tantric massage and coaching you in the process of moving your energy and connecting your spiritual and sexual energies.  
 
When I meet you in Tantra you meet who I really am.  When I meet you in massage you meet one aspect of me only – the sensual – and that aspect of me, by itself, has neither the capacity nor the qualifications to teach you Tantra.  The sensual aspect of me is powerful, but not as powerful as when it is conjoined with all that I am and when I am connecting with some-one who has taken the time and the effort to meet me on all my levels and to share the same of them self.  In other words, the trust that arises out of the deeper experiences that we have shared and my knowledge of who you are, allows even that aspect of me to flourish more fully.    

In your choice of massage you are choosing a sensual experience over a Tantric experience that brings together the union of the sensual and the spiritual and in the process opens you to the divinity in yourself, your partner and all of existence.  If we are going to explore Tantra then this is where we need to begin.  If you do not feel that you trust me as a Tantra teacher without meeting with me, I am willing to meet with you to talk for an hour; however I will charge you for my time.

I am interested in Prostate Massage.  Can you tell me about it?
Prostate massage, sometimes known as the male g-spot massage, can be used for either emotional healing, physical health, or sexual pleasure – or all three.
 
Male G-spot healing involves massage of the prostate gland which is to be found inside the rectum.  It is very popular in Europe and is becoming more popular here.   It’s main benefits are in the areas of health and pleasure.  Emotional healing, and sometimes even spiritual experience, may also be involved. 

Every person’s experience with prostate massage is different. Some people experience full body orgasm, others have a deep emotional release (tears, laughter, screams) followed by immense pleasure.  For others it is just an enjoyable experience and some don’t like it at all.

It often begins with the body being relaxed, pampered, and massaged and with the spirit being nurtured and awakened.  This may involve a hot mineral bath and spiritual and healing modalities to take you deep into yourself.  What actually happens will depend on the skills and experience of your massager.  Loving energy and eye contact and  gentle digital manipulation are generally involved.  Expert stimulation of the prostate gland can result in stimulation of the kundalini life-force sexual energy, the rising of which has been known to lead to higher states of consciousness and even enlightenment.
 
The health benefits of male g-spot massage are that it brings blood and oxygen to the prostate and helps release toxins in the prostate, thereby creating a healthier prostate.  This should help protect against disease to the prostate.
 
The pleasure benefits of male g-spot massage are to found in the fact that this is a very sexual area for the male and stimulation of this area can provide the male with the kind of arousal and orgasmic energy that the female g-spot can provide the woman.  I say “can” and not “does” because the openness of the woman to this experience is a determining factor in her being able to experience it.  The same is true in the case of the male.

 
The emotional healing benefits of male g-spot can be derived when suppressed emotional issues, often related to sexuality, safety, security, and vulnerability, are triggered by the massage.  If this happens you need someone who is trained to help you deal with them and to help you release them.  Once released, the experience changes to one of pure pleasure.
 
It is a shame that such a healing and pleasurable experience is not a legally acceptable practice in our culture  – unless performed by a doctor in a sterile, clinical manner in a medical facility.

Could you please be a bit more specific? So besides a lesson, will the client get a hand job, a blowjob or actual sex?
You will get Tantra and if that is not enough for you, and you need to know the specifics, then most likely I am not the person for you.  If you are looking for a hand job, a blowjob or sex then you are not looking for Tantra – which is both a spiritual path and a path of sacred sexuality.  Sacred sexuality refers to the bringing together of the love, spirituality and sexual energy.  The sex in sacred sex, refers to a sacred energetic experience.  Tantric sex involves the running of life force sexual energy and does not even require a partner to be experienced.  In fact, if I concentrate on it, I can experience it now as I sit here and write to you.  By the way, each of the options you gave me is an illegal act if part of a business deal.

Do you take on students to teach the art?  I am going thru rather serious life changes, and one of them is attempting to learn to trust other people and to connect to them, and it sounds like tantric arts could help me become comfortable with not only myself, but with being with, and giving myself to, other human beings. Can you help me?

Tantra, as I teach it, will give you what you want – to become more comfortable and trusting and more able to surrender and give yourself to a lover .  We begin with the Sacred Heart Space – a place of honoring and reverence.  I teach you how to be there with me, and by generalization, with others.  Holding that space intact, we move into the sensual.  Thus, begins your learning of how to connect the sexual with the spiritual.  I also explain the process of moving from the Sacred Heart Space through trust, openness, intimacy, love, and surrender, to hot, passionate, sacred sex.  I believe I can help you open up to a greater presence, trust, and, ultimately, surrender – both given and received.

Are you a scam?
I assure you that I am not a scam.  Actually you have written to me because the way I express myself indicates that I must know something about what I am talking about otherwise I would not be able to express myself in the way that I do.  So hold onto that realization as you read what I say, both in this email and in the web-site that I send you the link to.  There are many scams but there are also authentic teachers.  I am an authentic teacher and I have friends and colleagues who are authentic teachers too.  Many of us are the writers of the books and the makers of the videos that are coming out on Tantra.  I am in the beginning phases of writing a book called “Re-Romancing Your Relationship: How to Create Emotional Intimacy and Sexual Passion in an imperfect but highly valued Relationship.  A Tantric, Psychological and Bio-chemical Approach.”  I couldn’t write this book if I were a scam.

What is the difference between a “Tantra Experience & Massage Combo” session and a Tantra session?
 For the answer to this question , please check out the links below. If you have any question after, please call me to discuss them.  The bottom line is that with both types of sessions you get both pleasure, the Tantric consciousness and Tantric skill learning, but with the Tantra Experience there is no specified agenda for what skill set you will leave with and the flow is more determined by the flow of our mutual energies.  In the Tantra session, you are choosing what you want to learn – both the consciousness and the skills – and the flow of the session is more determined by achieving that.  The length of a Tantra Experience session can vary from 1.5 to 3 hours.  The length of the first Tantra session is 3.5 hours and 4 hours if there is performance anxiety.  Subsequent Tantra sessions are 3 to 3.5 hours.  Here are the links: Tantra Coaching for Men, Ejaculation Mastery & Full Body Orgasm, Tantra Mastery Series – 9 Optional Sessions, and the article, Sacred Sensual Delight Experience

Fetishes

Can I be your slave? 
My desire is to meet people as an equal and to have them get the rewards of  being in a place of honoring, reverence and cherishing that comes not only from you to me but from me to you.  Thus, I cannot accept you as a slave. 

I have a foot fetish.  Can I see you? 
I can serve you only if you really want to learn Tantra.

Fees

It is too expensive to do all those sessions to learn Tantra.  Couldn’t I learn more for far less by reading a book?  Do you guarantee the results? 
Your assumptions are wrong regarding have to do all sessions are wrong.  I teach many different aspects of Tantra and each aspect is independently invaluable. For, example, if you are like most men, you will need only one session to learn Ejaculation Mastery/ Full Body Orgasm – when they combined with your self pleasuring home practice to establish a new mind-body reflex.  This would be on the average for 21 days.    What you will get from the session is the consciousness and the technique that will give you this capacity and to practice the technique (with my coaching you and providing potent support) over and over again.  
 
While the amount of information you can get from a big book is more than I will give you (and I will give you a lot of information) you will not get the body knowing that I give you.  The disadvantage of the book is, in fact the amount of information that you will get, which will probably be more than you have time to read and digest, given all the other priorities that you have in life and then you have decide what to practice out of all of the many time-consuming techniques you are given.  Also, you will not find in a book my technique, which I developed from combining a number of different techniques, which is particularly effective.  The basis of my making this judgment is that many of my friends do what I do (and my friends are the really skilled Tantra teachers in this field) and none, to my knowledge, get the results I get – or if they do they are keeping it secret, which they wouldn’t because it is something to be proud of.  The majority of men I do the Ejaculation Mastery/Full Body Orgasm session with (maybe 80% or more) experience full body orgasm in that session.  As far as I know, this is uncommon.  
 
I cannot guarantee the result in for anyone.  If I guaranteed it would happen, I would have to be lying.  How could anyone make a guarantee such as this?  It is only possible to talk about how likely it is – and likely it is.

I really want to do a session but I can’t afford it.  Can you help me? 
It is my desire that Tantra not be limited to the top 10% of income earners in the country who can afford it.  However, I am also compelled to consider my own time and energy limitations and the impact of these on the inner spiritual resources required of me to be someone who can be Tantric and teach Tantra.  My hope is that you will consider the financial contribution you make to your Tantra session(s) with me as an investment in yourself that will reap more than ample rewards for the exchange.  However, I am well aware that what is an acceptable stretch for one person is out of the range for another.  For these people I have created my Application for Reduced Rates for Special Circumstances.  Please check it out and see if it works for you.

Miscellaneous

I’m looking for someone who isn’t just b.s. but really believes and lives her life accordingly.  Someone REAL.  Is that you?
I understand the importance to you of someone who really knows what they are doing and authentically represents what they teach.  The issue is not whether I do or not but where on the continuum I am.  We are all imperfect beings and teach that which we most want to learn.  In the field of Tantra, among even the true teachers, those who can give you your monies worth and may, with your cooperation, change your life, you will find (if you get to know them really well and begin to really understand Tantra) that some are stronger in some aspects of what they teach and weaker in others.  Do I embody what I teach?  Yes and no.  However, what I put my emphasis on in teaching, I embody pretty well and that which I don’t I am pretty authentic about my own difficulties there and I don’t focus on that aspect anyway.

Is my goal realistic? Are my motives pure? Is this the right thing to do? How might I be affected? I do not know the answers.
If your goals are to deepen your relationship with your wife and to experience the coupling of eroticism and spirituality, and these are the only goals you have mentioned here, you should definitely gain the capacity to achieve both more than you have thus far to date.  I will teach you how to get out of your head and to experience the union of eroticism and spirituality and if you can follow my instructions you should be successful, especially as you have already been initiated into the spiritual path by a powerful master. 

As to your motives and their purity, it depends on the value framework that you hold.  If in addition, to the motives that you have mentioned you are attracted by the idea of an erotic experience and judge that as negative, then I suggest that you either reassess your framework or refrain from doing a session.  I do not want to work with someone who will feel guilty after as that, rightly or wrongly, will create a barrier between you and your partner, diminishing the intimacy that you share together, and adding to your suffering.  In my framework and the Tantric framework, the more you discover and accept who you naturally are, outside of the framework of your conditioning, the closer you come to God, and our sexuality is part of our natural nature.  It is a quality of who we are, not something that somebody else, a primary partner, produces in us.  It is as much a part of us as the divine is.  A Tantric man or woman can see the divine in whoever is before them and bows down to it. They also can feel sexual energy with those they experience this divinity in.  So I do not feel a desire to experience the erotic is impure.  Seeking to rip off other people is what is impure.  However, if you feel that by not telling your wife that you betray her, then that is a different matter.   
 
My attitude is that if you have a relationship in which you have an agreement for growth and personal and spiritual evolution and to support each other in this, and to be willing to stretch your boundaries to enable each other to make that growth and have carried out the agreement in practice, then it is best to be honest and to share where you are and what you want with your partner.  If that is not the way of your relationship, you have two choices: 

The first is to limit yourself for the sake of the trust and to exchange the growth for the trust, hoping ultimately that you can create the conditions in which your growth can take place within the context of her trust and with her blessing, and working towards that end.  

The second is to choose the growth and the expansion over the trust, understanding that the benefits to the relationship will exceed the losses accrued by not sharing with your partner your choices and making choices that she would not like.  This choice would also involve understanding that she has no reason to be threatened by your choices and that her fears are the result of her parental, social and cultural conditioning and are not a true reflection of reality.  Thus, it is possible to choose not to be limited by them. 

The third choice, is to tell your partner what you want and why or, after the fact, what you did and why.  This is the path of radical honesty.  It is the path of my own relationship.  It is a Tantric path for Tantra marries love and freedom.  My Tantric master, Osho, said: 

In the choice between freedom and love, choose freedom, because freedom can survive without love but love cannot survive without freedom.  Let freedom be your center and love your periphery.   

My partner and I have followed this route and we are more in love than ever. 

I cannot tell you the right thing to do because what is the right thing for one person is not the right thing for another.  I only know that if you are going to feel very guilty you will lose more than you gain.  You ask how you might be affected.  It depends on your frame of mind.  If you come to me excited, wanting the good that the session can bring you and your relationship, willing to either to share openly with your wife what happened or to keep it to yourself without guilt, if she is not ready for to know, you can benefit from it.  If you have a history of torturing yourself about such matters, then know yourself, and avoid future suffering by finding some other safer route to achieve what you are looking for.   

One of the things that I will teach you when you come is a way of getting your wife to consider seriously your desires and to join you in your search for the experience of the union of the sexual and the divine, and in your wish to explore your erotic potential and enjoy the fruits of becoming the best lover that you can become.  For this is what you want deep down inside – this and the deepening of your intimacy with your Beloved. 

I don’t have a partner to do the session with or to practice with.  Do I need one?
You will not need a partner either to do the session or to practice it. I will be your partner in the session.  The home play from the first session is done solo, whether you have a partner or not, until you have established a new mind-body reflex.  The home-play from the first Pleasuring the Goddess Session can also be done by yourself very effectively.  The skills you learn from the other sessions can be practiced when you get together with someone and will not be lost in the meantime.  I will also recommend what to do to find an appropriate partner to share this kind of experience with.  The self-confidence you will develop from the sessions will improve your prospects of finding a desirable partner and the likelihood of meeting this new person’s needs and desires.  In this sense, you are at an advantage in not having a partner – you can choose one who will meet you at the new level of consciousness that you are at and who will appreciate you for who you have become.

What is the recommended interval between sessions? 
There is no recommended interval.  Each session is independent in itself and adds to the previous one new and different Tantric skills.  If you wish you could schedule 4 days with me and go through the whole process, one session after another, as others have effectively done.   In my opinion, what is ideal is to meet with me about once every three to four weeks and practice what you learn in between.  This will give you time to internalize one thing before you move to the next.   However, this can also be done if you do two sessions in a day and then do the practice on both of them in the coming weeks.  It is up to you and depends on your time schedule and finances as to how frequently you meet with me.  You could also do a session every two or three months, if that is what works best for you.  Or you can do the first, and if you wish, the second session and stop there, if all you want is to learn Ejaculation Mastery and Full Body Orgasm.